Exactly.   It’s harassment, nothing more.

Glad to see Ken deleted it.

Tee hee... that was me!

I got your email. I check for those daily

Thanks.. I've been rather blue. I keep telling myself that other people are worse off (your attitude is amazing BTW) but it doesn't help when you hurt... I know you get this.

Trish wrote:

Thanks.. I've been rather blue. I keep telling myself that other people are worse off (your attitude is amazing BTW) but it doesn't help when you hurt... I know you get this.

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Oh yeah, I DO get it, so, so well.  I get "blue" too.  After waking up from the coma,  I had one breakdown episode while in the hospital when the pain was so overwhelming (even with combo cocktails of 2 Percocets, infusions of Dilaudid & Morphine, and 2 Gabapentin) together with the loneliness of being so far from home and knowing it was going to continue for weeks became so profound that I melted into a puddle of whimpering sobs feeling very sorry for myself and making it all so much worse.  I was largely inconsolable until I finally fell asleep of sheer exhaustion. 

From their reaction, it's not an uncommon thing after that type of spine surgery because the pain is so intense and there's no escaping it.  I could (and still can) feel every rod and screw in there holding my lumbar spine together and the 10" incision.  There's no option but laying on your back in bed afterwards, IOW, lying directly on the incision with no relief at all.

My nurses and aides were very gentle and tried very hard to comfort me, but I was just too upset and overwhelmed with pain to respond to their efforts.  My family had gone home that morning after I was finally out of the coma for a day+ and I knew I'd not see them again for awhile because it was so far to travel.

Thankfully, that only happened once but I know what it's like to be so far down the rabbit hole that it seems like there's no escape.

I was so happy when they told me that I could finally sit up and get out of bed briefly.  Little did I know that when doing anything but laying flat in your bed, there's a bulky brace that must be worn that is tightly pressing on the incision with every breath you take to keep the hardware from shifting and prevent bending or twisting.

Thankfully, as the incision heals and hardware settles, the pain is lessened daily, but only incrementally.  I measure it by how many pain meds I need to be reasonably comfortable.  After 3 1/2 weeks, I'm down to just the Percocet and Gabapentin.  So, that's a HUGE win!  To keep a good attitude, I grab on to the wins and that helps me stay feeling okay.  It's a long haul, but I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel and know that any future surgeries won't be as bad the the two I've already been through. 

Knowing that others have it harder is of no comfort when you're suffering.  All it does is make you angry (because you are entitled to experience hurt too, even if others have it worse) or it makes you feel guilty for complaining when others have it worse, neither of which helps you one bit.

Attitude is often as simple as choosing to focus on the positives and hanging on for dear life.  I'm grateful that I can count the days to when my family can visit and when I can finally go home.  Each day in rehab, I make progress walking with a walker, climbing stairs with a cane, log-rolling to get myself out of bed, using the bathroom without help, and all of the things I must be able to do to be released to go home.  I can see the light there.  It looks like next week!!

All I can suggest is that you LOOK for the little things that make you smile, and for every single progression that you make, no matter how small.  If you can see out the window, you can see spring coming and know that the sunny, wonderful days are coming with it.  You are cooking again, I noticed on Facebook. Maybe start thinking about publishing another cook book?

Those little things are what will get you through this and help your attitude be more positive.  On the days that you feel blue, give in for an amount of time, and then shake it off.  Remind yourself of what is good.  You can do that if you allow the blues to have their say, briefly.  If you try to fight them all the time, they will overwhelm you.  Just like grief, you let bits of it out to relieve the pressure building and then you shut it down and refocus.



 

You wanna laugh, both of you check your email

They've basically ruined R&E.  It's become tiresome.

greenman wrote:

They’re like a tag team of imbeciles. They make the WWE look like a MENSA convention.

ha ha ha ha
 

Siagiah wrote:

Did a post go missing from 3am by greenman?

I certainly didn’t make a post at 3am…?

Siagiah wrote:

Strange, I gotvan email saying yiu had, delivered at 2:52am. It was so odd because, to my knowledge, you've never posted after like 10pm on any boards.

Maybe it was just slow delivery of the email notification we all get for th forum?

Must’ve been.  That would’ve been a very unusual night for me…

Answer:  No, he doesn’t.   As evidenced by this idiot thread.

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https://mb.boardhost.com/ReligionAndEthics/msg/1680889622.html

I know y'all are dyin' to talk Polly Ticks, so c'mon, man ... - Mondo Fuego™ April 7, 2023, 10:47 am
I can't take anyone with a fake yokel accent seriously. - Party pooper April 7, 2023, 11:28 am
What a nice, thoughtful greeting for Easter Weekend. - Mondo Fuego™ April 7, 2023, 12:42 pm  [Jesus would disapprove your criticism of my trashboard…lol
No-one wants to post there. - Merlin April 7, 2023, 11:27 am
But Merlin likes to post there ... 7 posts in just 2 threads. - Mondo Fuego™ April 7, 2023, 12:27 pm
Gave it a try and found it not very serious or open to serious debate but mostly the usual trolling. - Merlin April 7, 2023, 12:42 pm
What do you expect for a new board? It takes time. - Mondo Fuego™ April 7, 2023, 12:49 pm
How many times did we warn him about smoking in bed? - Party pooper April 7, 2023, 11:30 am
its not like there are any new posters here for him to harvest - Trish April 7, 2023, 11:51 am
Looks like you were "harvested" 10 times on the current page. - Mondo Fuego™ April 7, 2023, 12:41 pm
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Shilling for his DOA ‘Serious (lol) Bipartisan (lol) Political Board.’

Never mind the right-wing attitude brought over from White Whine.  Never mind the abusive lies about politicians Mongo doesn’t like, and facts.  Never mind the hostile attitude toward anyone who disagrees with ‘us.’

Just join in the fun!  Until he decides to delete yo’ ass.

Note the latest nonsense:

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‘Ken

Posted by Mondo Fuego™ on April 7, 2023, 2:04 pm
Please DNR "Party Pooper".

‘All he does is chase me around like a lost puppy, with one insult after another.

I have no reason or desire to converse with him.’
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Again: wrong approach (e-mail Ken privately, don’t announce it); hypocrisy (no one pushes more insults than Mongo); hiding behind DNRs and banning (again, and as always); whiny, needy Mongo Superiola crapola (as always).

Why would anyone let this POS onto their board?

Truly pathetic.  He's running out of DNRs.  LOL.  Ken has a limit.

They don't even try to hide their racist attitudes.

More whining drivel:

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You don't decide what I support. I support me, my beloved wife and family, and two Himalayan cats. [lol]

Posted by Mondo Fuego™ on April 8, 2023, 11:31 am, in reply to "I said you SUPPORT what happened Jan 6th!! You can't deny it so live with it"

Quit being a sanctimonious moral busybody.

You are futilely calling the stainless steel pot black.

You support BLM/LGBTQXYZMNOP+ and their looting, arson, beating women swimmers, and other crimes because your mantra is "by any and all means necessary". [insane]

I am not dependent on who wins elections. Makes no difference to me who is in the WH or Govnr Ofc. I am not dependent on any political stance.

I live in a whole different world than you. I get to see the world for what it is while you hide under the Bayonne bridge reading the NYT in candlelight. [Elitist, much?]

Now trot along with your false accusations.
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How do you justify banning HH/Party Pooper when Mongo Flatulentio is allowed to abuse other posters ROUTINELY  in this vulgar manner?

Comical post, and comical moderation.  Mongo’s cats could do a better job.

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